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Raves

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It was all because we had moved once again, my family and me. After some significant ups and downs, with more downs if we are being completely honest, we finally settled in an amazing place where we could all be together at peace. While looking for a place to eat one day, a friend of mine suggested a recently opened restaurant called Raves that was about a five minutes drive from my house. I was not disappointed at all. Not only was it very very close to my house, it was just my kind of place. Warm and homely, with dimmed yellow lights, soft music, great location, not too many of the people I know and it had really good food. I didn't know it then when my friend suggested that I try the mocca milkshake that a tradition had just started.  Not only did Raves become my go to place, the mocca milk shake became my drink. Before long, I was having all my first dates with the various pursuers at Raves. Then, all the waiters were asking if I wanted ‘the usual’, and

Transition

How long until that thing that looks shiny from afar becomes a dull dump pile of clay in your hands? Once, when you didn't have it yet,it was all you could think about. Day and night, you plotted and planned how to acquire this very valuable piece. You jumped through hoops and bent over backward for just a chance to bask in its glory. Then, on that fateful day, the stars smiled down upon you. Finally,it was yours... Yes, it was all bliss at first. all your hopes and dreams had come true. it was everything you had ever thought it was and so much more, and this was the best time of your life. And then not so much anymore. Suddenly,you noticed the leaks and cracks. You noticed that the surface wasn't as smooth and as even as you thought it was. The colors weren't as bright and glittery as they seemed before and the hinges were rusty and creaky. I guess the question is; how long does it take for the shiny and smooth to become cracked and dirty?Will you still want it af

Three signs you are indeed worried

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First off, let me start by saying I’m not a worrier. It’s my best and worst trait. Not worrying means I keep a straight face when the traffic officers stop us for overtaking and I don’t have my license with me, but then it also means I kept that same straight face when I came home with an E on my report card for chemistry. Needless to say, my “lack of concern” was not taken kindly by my parents. It also helps that the Bible has 365 “worry not’s” altogether, one for each day. So when I googled ‘causes of insomnia’, I was quite perturbed when each of the 376,590 results showed worry as one of the causes. Then came the self assessment, trying to see if indeed there were things in my life that people in general tend to worry about and the answer was a big fat no; my life is great and I have many many blessings to be thankful for. It took me a while to realize that the sneaky bastard had indeed found a crevice to crawl through into my life and once inside, went on to get c

HELLO FELLOW HUMAN.

'Its funny how we always know its all in our heads and have to work our minds out of it. . .' I guess I just wanted to be perfect. I wanted to be the perfect person, the perfect friend, perfect sister, daughter, girlfriend, wife, mother, and most recently perfect aunt. Whenever people said that it's too hard, that it's almost impossible to balance this with that and still have time for the other, I thought they just weren't trying hard enough. I would be the one that went the extra mile. I would put more effort until I got there. No matter what. I would do it. Things don't always go the way we plan. Case in point; Wednesday of the week that's just ended; I decided to take my nephews and niece for a movie. It would be fun, we would laugh and eat popcorn and high five each other and I'd be the best aunt ever. The perfect aunt. In   preparation to be the perfect mother. I had it all planned out, every little detail, from the movie to the food to the ga

WE LIVE...WE LEARN...

I have two terrible habits, and each one compliments the other and magnifies it. The first one involves giving up on people too easily. When someone, especially someone I consider a friend does something insensitive, cruel or downright evil, at the back of my head something snaps and that person’s name is immediately transferred to the black book in my mind. Now I know what you’re thinking; everybody makes mistakes once in a while, and I know that too! I just can’t help myself.  Maybe I should explain that the black book doesn't necessarily mean that I spit whenever I see you… it just means that from now on, I have to watch what I say or do around you very closely, which might as well be the end of our friendship because once I have to watch what I say and do around you, I’m not going to see the point in hanging around you anymore because i) I can’t be bothered. Ii) I don’t have that energy and iii) I’m all about genuine. So all in all, in the long run, I will still have

When I say I'm a Christian...

Got this foward today and it spoke to me so much, I thought I'd share it... When I say... "I am a Christian" I'm not shouting "I'm clean living." I'm whispering "I was lost," Now I'm found and forgiven. When I say..."I am a Christian" I don't speak of this with pride. I'm confessing that I stumble and need CHRIST to be my guide. When I say... "I am a Christian" I'm not trying to be strong. I'm professing that I'm weak and need HIS strength to carry on. When I say... "I am a Christian" I'm not bragging of success. I'm admitting I have failed and need God to clean my mess. When I say... "I am a Christian" I'm not claiming to be perfect, My flaws are far too visible but, God believes I am worth it. When I say... "I am a Christian" I still feel the sting of pain, I have my share of heartaches So I call upon His name. When I say... &quo

Saturday afternoon... Sunday evening...

I miss those Saturday afternoons where you combed your hair, dressed your best and your parents took you with them to a wedding Those Sunday evenings where immediately after church, you drove to your aunt's place to visit and play with your cousins. I miss those Saturday afternoons where you stayed in the dormitory sleeping or went boys end just do to nothing. Those Sunday evenings where you reacted spaghetti in percolator and shared with all your classmates or went for 'entertainment' just to see your crush and hope he says hi to you I miss those Saturday afternoons where you closed shop at 4pm instead of 6 pm to meet your friends at Nandos and prayed your boss wouldn't choose that day to pass by. Those Sunday evenings where you got home and went straight to your room praying your parents wouldn't notice how late it is. I miss those Saturday afternoons where you woke up at 2pm after a wild Friday night just to shower, eat and then head back to sleep. Those

The leopard and it's spots.

It's hard to believe that people do change, especially after you give someone a second chance and they go right ahead and do the same thing all over again. 'A leopard never changes it's spots' is a saying I'm sure we are all familiar with. But what really are these 'spots'? As a person who has gone through a remarkable change, and is probably still changing, and will probably continue to gradually change till I die, I should probably state that I absolutely believe in the leopard changing it's spots. It's been said that we all have an evil side, and when pushed to the limit in given situations, even Saints would react in a way that would shock even the most shameless sinner. What is change really if not focusing and building on the traits you want to develop and continually saying no to the ones you want to do away with? We all have it in us; the potential to be very good and also very bad, it's just a matter of the stimulus. So if someone has

ALIENS; WHAT THEY MEAN FOR CHRISTIANS.

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The topic of aliens and what they could signify for us as Christians is tricky for me because I am neither an expert on Extraterrestrial beings, nor on Christianity. When I embarked on my mission to become a serious and devoted Christian, I never thought there would be so many obstacles. It looks like every single tiny thing either confirms or disproves it; from the color of the sky on a Sunday to the fact that a Bible actually caught fire in a school dormitory somewhere. As you will read in the links below,everyone has found a way to interpret the Bible and its verses to support whatever views the have about Extraterrestrial Entities(ET-E's), and trust me, the views are not lacking in quantity or diversity. Here's what i think; God created everything.I believe in God. And I believe in Jesus. I believe He died to take my sins away and through Him I can get to the Father and to Heaven. Do I have my very own questions about all this? Yes,I do. Does the fact that some of

Pick your battles; prioritize!

Nothing ever just happens. If you want it, you have to be deliberate about getting it. I’m not saying that there’s no such thing as fate, or destiny, but I do know that all of us have a part to play. And seeing as what we do contributes a lot to what path our lives take, it’s very important on what we focus our energies. There’s a Chinese saying that ‘A single grain of rice can tip the scales.’ Investing a little more effort can go a long way.   Life is unpredictable; it can change from black to white and vice versa in a split second…so while it is true that we cannot really control what is thrown at us, we should also never forget that there is so much more to this than meets the eye, and we shouldn’t allow the trivial things in life to completely consume us. There’s a European film festival currently taking place in Kampala, and I got to watch a feature film called ‘Looking for Sugar-man that was about the search for a one Rodriguez, a writer/singer from the early seventie

Closure: Why you need it…or not.

‘You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks or even months over-analyzing a situation, trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened…or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move on.’ - Tupac Shakur. ‘Letting go doesn’t mean you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you have control over is yourself.’ - Deborah Rider. ‘I’m done with those. Regrets are for people who have failed.’ -Ned Vizzini  ‘It’s good to leave doors closed. Otherwise you will be tempted to go back and go through them again.’ -Joshua.J.O  ‘Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.’ -Antoine De Saint-Exupery ‘When hungry, eat your rice; when tired, close your eyes. Fools may laugh at me, but wise men will know what I mean.’ -Lin Chi ‘We are what we repeatedly do; excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.’ -Aristotle ‘What we think, or what we

The CES that was...

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While I’d like to say that I equally appreciate the Arts, to be honest I actually think of myself more as an artist than a scientist, I am not one to pass up an opportunity to appreciate the diversity and milestones reached by raw science. I’ve always believed you can’t really have one without the other, but what do I know… With that said, I bring you the highlights of the Consumer Electronics Show that was held yesterday in Las Vegas. While I wasn’t there in person (not like its open to the general public, even if it was, I highly doubt I’d make it), I strongly emphasize that I was there in spirit J . For those of you that have already heard about the CES, you’re welcome. And for those who are hearing about it for the first time, it’s basically an event that showcases the latest improvements and inventions of household electronics. it’s held annually in Las Vegas between the 7 th and 10 th of January with an attendance that usually goes up to 150,000 people, in spite of the f

Normal is overrated :)

'The people that are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do.' - Steve Jobs. I'm a black woman. Now I can say it with pride,but back then being black and being a woman are two of the worst things that could ever happen to you... Even though right now,stereotyping is generally discouraged,the number of people who sincerely believe that there are chances of a black woman doing something great or memorable would still be given a painfully low percentage. Not just that,but there is still an unspoken yet wide spread and accepted path of life that all women around the world,not just the black ones,are expected to follow ; Be a good girl,excel in school,graduate,get married,have babies,be a happy home maker,wait for your death. NEWS FLASH: Na-ah!! While Im not opposed to any of the above achievements,I also believe that it should be by choice and not obligation. Why do we still passively but aggressively crucify those that choose another path? A per